Noticing Your Pain With Curiosity

Welcome, sweet soul.

Before we try to fix anything, let’s simply notice. 

Not with judgment… but with gentle, loving curiosity.

Where is the pain in your body? In your heart? In your life?
Can you greet it like a wise visitor, one that has something to show you?
Pain doesn’t need to be shamed or silenced—it wants to be seen.

Today, we begin by noticing—not fixing, not running, just noticing.
That’s more than enough.

Write Down What is Causing You Pain Today

Pain speaks in whispers and patterns. Let’s listen.

Today, you’ll write down what is creating pain in your life right now—no editing, no censoring.
Is it a relationship? A thought? An old story that replays quietly in the background?

Let the pen be your truth-teller.
No one is watching. You are safe here.
Naming the pain is the first step toward honoring it.

Why Does This Cause You Pain?

Now that you’ve named the pain, let’s sit beside it and ask, “Why?”

Why does this moment, this memory, this interaction hurt?
Not from the head—but from the heart.

Often, pain is tied to something deeper: a need, a boundary, a tender part of us that wasn’t loved the way it needed to be.

Let’s explore—not to blame, but to understand.

I Have a Right To Feel This Way

This is where the healing deepens.

You have a right to feel this pain.
You don’t need to justify it.
You don’t need to minimize it.
You don’t need to “be stronger.”

Every feeling you carry is valid.
Your pain is not a weakness—it’s a testimony to your sensitivity, your humanity, your capacity to love.

Let yourself feel it. All of it.

Making Our List Of Childhood Events That Caused Us Pain

Now we go tenderly into our past.

With love, we’ll begin making a list of moments from childhood—big or small—that created pain.
This is not about re-living trauma.
It’s about remembering where the pain began… so we can offer our younger selves the compassion we never received.

Write with care. Pause when you need.
You are not alone here.

You’re Not Born With Pain

This is sacred truth.

You were not born in pain.
You were born in light. In love. In wholeness.
Pain entered later—through misunderstanding, separation, and the fragility of the human world.

Remembering that you weren’t born broken is powerful medicine.
You are still that light. It’s just been covered up for a while.

The Beliefs We Created In Our Childhood

From our early wounds, we often created beliefs to protect ourselves.
“I’m not good enough.”
“Love means pain.”
“I have to be perfect to be safe.”

These beliefs were once your armor—but now, they may be your cage.

Let’s bring these beliefs into the light with compassion.

They’re not you. They’re just stories… and stories can be rewritten.

The Pain is There for a Reason

Pain is never random. It always has a message.

Maybe it’s trying to tell you that you need to rest.
Maybe it’s saying: “Please don’t abandon me again.”
Maybe it’s asking for softness, for presence, for love.

Let’s ask ourselves: What is my pain trying to reveal?
What truth has it been holding all this time?

Sit With Your Pain and Ask Why It’s There

This is where the alchemy happens.

Sit with your pain—not to change it, but to listen.
Close your eyes. Breathe.
Place a hand on your heart or your belly.
Ask, “Why are you here?”

Let the answer rise—not from the mind, but from your deeper knowing.
Even if there are tears, even if there’s silence…
What matters is your presence.

Exchanging the Word TO with the Word FOR

Here’s a shift that changes everything.

Instead of “Why did this happen to me?”
Try: “Why did this happen for me?”

This doesn’t mean pain is fair or deserved. It means you are willing to believe that healing, growth, and deeper love can come from it.

Pain can be your initiation—not your identity.

It is ALL Spirit

This is the truth that sets you free.

Every moment… every heartbreak… every ache…
It’s all Spirit. All sacred. All held in love.

Nothing is wasted. Not your wounds. Not your questions. Not your tears.

Everything that brought you to this moment has prepared you to remember:
You are divine. You are whole. You are home.

Meditation

A soft, nurturing space to slow down, breathe deeply, and meet your pain with compassion.
In this meditation, you’ll be gently guided to connect with the sensations in your body, listen to what your pain is trying to tell you, and offer yourself the love and presence you may have been longing for all along.

No pressure to fix—just space to feel, to listen, and to soften.